I was recently reading Zen In The Art Of Archery by Eugen Herrigel. There is a line in the book that really stood out for me – “The Master does not seek, he finds.” Many people spend all their time seeking. Stressed out, overworked, no family time, moodiness, emotional fragility, setting unrealistic deadlines, putting too much on his plate. All these things could describe the “seeker”. The seeker constantly tries to control things that are out of his control. Does this sound familiar?
The reality is, we are in control of nothing except what is happening right now at this very instant. The only things we can control are how we react to a situation and what we think about a situation. We can’t relive the past and we can’t control the future. Unfortunately, most people spend their time in one of these two places. The present moment is all we have. We can do things to make our future better but we can’t really control the outcome of anything. We can’t get too attached to outcomes. Sometimes there is more to learn from what went wrong than there is to learn from everything going right. How many times have your best-laid plans been derailed because of some unforeseen event? Did you learn something or did you simply become frustrated?
Being stressed out all the time and worried about things out of your control is a miserable way to live. Learn how to be in the moment without any thought of the future or any thoughts of the past. Getting to this point requires constant effort at first. You are trying to change old habits that have been around many years. You are creating new habits. Be patient and give yourself some time to make this part of your everyday life.
Meditation is a great tool for getting refocused and on track when things seem to be getting out of hand in your life or your business. Meditation can keep you “in the flow”. The meditation can be one minute, 5 minutes, or whatever time you need to get back on track. Use soothing music if this works for you or try different meditation CDs. Some people prefer total silence during meditation. Just find what works for you. A friend of mine, David Humes, has posted a great meditation audio/video on YouTube. Just stop, be still, only focus on your breathing and remove any thoughts of the past or the future. Only focus on your breathing. Be present with yourself and your body. Be aware of your breathing and the stillness of your body.
Of course, you can’t sit around all day doing nothing. Meditating and sitting around waiting for something to happen won’t work. You do have to take action. You still have to get out of bed, get in the flow and do the work that needs to be done that day if you want to have a successful business and move closer to your goals, dreams, aspirations, and fulfillment of your life’s purpose. Getting in the flow will allow you to find rather than seek.
I hope this has given you some food for thought. Sometimes you have to step away from your business for a period of time to get a new perspective. Even if it is only for a minute or two. It’s okay to do this. Life is too short to live in a stressed out and emotionally fragile state. You only get one shot at life. Don’t blow it. Learn to be still; be present; and focus on your body and your breathing. Learn how to meditate. Remove all thoughts, both negative and positive, from your mind. All we have is right now. Enjoy the moment.